7 Tips to Help You Keep Going
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Are you feeling overwhelmed, stressed, frustrated, fatigued, burned out from the pressures of life, or dealing with anxiety?
Are there times you just want to throw in the towel and call it quits?
Have you thought about getting in your car and driving as far away as you can to begin a new life where no one knows you?
You are not alone.
We all have faced these moments in our lives. Either from family, work, responsibilities, or just life.
What can you do to overcome these feelings, stay plugged in, and keep going?
1.) Take a Time-Out.
Time-outs are not just for misbehaving children. Adults need time outs too.
One way you can overcome emotional overload is by stepping away from the situation.
Time Out Techniques:
- Take a fifteen minute break.
- Take a vacation.
- Go for a walk.
- Take a bike ride.
- Go for a swim.
- Take a road trip.
- Go camping.
- Take a hike.
- Go fishing.
- Read a book.
- Surround yourself in another environment.
These methods can help lower blood-pressure, give you time to problem solve, and gain motivation to stay focused.
2.) Set Boundaries.
Setting boundaries is an essential part of your mental health, safety, and peace of mind.
Often, we can become so overwhelmed by helping others and allowing our time to be consumed by offering help and assistant to others, we forget about ourselves.
We set boundaries in place for a reason. We place them as a way of saying to others, “I need my space.” “You are overstepping the line.” Or, “I feel you are taking advantage of me.”
Don’t feel bad about setting boundaries. It is letting others know you are in control of your life, peace of mind, safety, and mental health.
3.) Practice Saying No.
I once read an article about the difficulties of being a yes person ~I can’t remember the article today~ and it offered some tips for changing your behaviour.
One tip the article suggested, if you are an individual that is prone to saying yes to people who ask for help, money, your time, etc., practice in your alone time of saying no.
You might ask, “What is the purpose of that?”
Studies show, on average, it takes 21-30 days to change a negative thought behaviour.
Understanding, it didn’t take you one night to ingrain the negative thought into your mind and then act out its behaviour. This process happened over time and it will take time to reprogram your mind and behaviour.
One of these steps is repetition. If you think about it, when you want to remember something, don’t you repeat it several times in your mind to help you remember? This is the same practice in changing your automatic response of saying yes to saying no.
Practice saying no as you are going about your daily activities and see if within 3-4 weeks if your initial response has changed from saying yes to saying no.
4.) Deligate Responsiablites.
Too many responsibilities can place a significant amount of stress on you.
Caring for your children, family, running errands, shopping, cleaning, taking your children to practices, going to games, are just a few examples of responsibilities that can become overwhelming.
A great way to reduce the stress of these responsibilities is to delegate them to other family members or lean on friends to help lighten the load.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It can be empowering because you are showing that your family is important and you only want the best for them, and their success is your highest priority.
- Network with other parents to establish a carpool system for transporting children to and from practices and games.
- Develop a “Help Appreciated” list instead of a “Chore List.” By creating an appreciation list lessens the implication that the family member or individual may not be contributing to the unity of the family. It can also help the individual discover you are feeling overwhelmed, and because they love you, they will feel the need to help.
- Make a list of errands you need to run and try to schedule them for one day a week instead of several. E.g., if you are getting your hair or nails done, stop and check the mail at the post office, stop at the store and pick up needed groceries to get you through the week.
5.) Make Time for Yourself.
An important key to healthy mental health is “Self-Care.”
Allotting time for yourself throughout each day is essential for mental, physical, and spiritual balance. I like to call this “Defragmenting.”
There are utilities on most Microsoft Window computers that are called Disc Cleanup and Disc Defragmenter.
Simply put, Disc Cleanup removes left over data from files and programs that were removed, resulting in freed up space on your hard drive.
Disc Defragmenter takes files that were scattered throughout your hard drive and rearranges them to help storage space and performance on the computer.
Taking time for yourself to clear out the mental clutter and put thoughts into perspective should be an important activity of your day. This will help you reflect on your day and analyze choices and decision you have made.
Benefits from this activity,
- You can correct errors from poor choices and decisions.
- Plan for more productive days.
- Help keep a positive, balanced, and healthy mindset.
- Stay plugged in to your family and important things that matter.
- Lower blood pressure and stress.
- Strengthen your relationship with God.
Tips for “Self-Care;”
- Meditation & Prayer-are key disciplines for a healthy spiritual and well-balanced life. The Bible states in Isaiah 26:3; “You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!” Tyndale House Publishers. (2015). Holy Bible: New Living Translation (Is 26:3). Meditating and memorizing the scriptures helps keep you focused on things that are wholesome and just. The Bible also declares in Proverbs 4:20-23; “My child, pay attention to what I say. Listen carefully to my words. Don’t lose sight of them. Let them penetrate deep into your heart, for they bring life to those who find them, and healing to their whole body. Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Tyndale House Publishers. (2015). New Living Translation.
- Sleep-Make sure you are getting enough rest each day. The “National Sleep Foundation” guidelines advise at least 7-9 hours. This is an imperative part of your self-care. If you are having difficulties with your sleep pattern, you may need to talk to your doctor.
- Eat Healthy-Eating well-balanced meals of fruits, vegetables, and non-processed foods will help keep your body healthy and well nourished.
- Exercise-Exercising is an activity that most of us struggle with, including myself. However, there are extreme benefits to exercising. It can help to lower blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease and heart failure, just to name a few.
6.) Get Inspiried Again.
Times when you feel defeated, lack of drive or ambition, it is important to get inspired again.
Inspiration can come in many forms.
Rekindle things that used to inspire you or discover new things to be inspired.
Tips for Inspiration;
- Read the Bible.
- Attend church.
- Read an inspirational book.
- Help someone in need.
- Go for a scenic walk or drive.
- Take a hike in the woods or mountains.
- Go to a body of water, e.g., lake, ocean, river.
- Watch an inspiring movie.
- Support a cause.
These tips could help spark the dwindling flame that once was a raging fire.
7.) Don’t Quit!
being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
The New International Version (Philippians 1:6). (2011). Zondervan.
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Remember, you are still here because you have a purpose.
You have been created to solve a problem, give love to others, pull up others who are down, and finish the call God has designed you to fulfill.
We all encounter overwhelming days. You experience victories in battles and you have defeats. The significant thing is to keep fighting! Keep moving forward! Become inspired again! Get plugged back in and be empowered!
But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.
The New International Version (2 Chronicles 15:7). (2011). Zondervan.